4. People Attending for the Wrong Reasons
Not everyone comes to mourn.
Some attend out of curiosity, gossip, social pressure, or even self-promotion. These individuals drain emotional energy instead of offering support.
Grief should never be treated as entertainment or an opportunity.
5. Ex-Partners or Estranged Friends (Case-by-Case)
In some situations, former spouses, ex-partners, or estranged friends may feel entitled to attend.
But if their presence would cause pain or distress—especially for the spouse, children, or parents of the deceased—it is completely reasonable to say no.
Example: An ex-spouse showing up uninvited when it would deeply hurt the widow or widower.
