She Said He Preferred the Cold

She Said He Preferred the Cold …But His File Told a Different Story

I was the one who finally got my father-in-law, William—“Pop”—into a good nursing home after my late husband’s sister, Diane, refused to do more than sign the papers.

Pop was seventy-eight, a former Navy electrician with severe arthritis and early dementia. One cold Tuesday in November, I stopped by after work and found him slumped in his wheelchair, silent and shaking. The room wasn’t just cool—it was 56 degrees. I could see my breath. His hands were nearly blue.

The head nurse, Patricia, looked resigned when I confronted her. Diane, listed as medical proxy, had ordered the heat kept low unless it dropped below fifty. She claimed Pop “preferred it cold.” Legally, the staff had to follow her instructions.

My husband, David, had died three years earlier. With him gone, Diane treated me like an outsider, despite eight years of marriage and countless times I’d cared for Pop when she wouldn’t. But I wasn’t going to leave him freezing.